Posted in Children, Guilt and Shame, Parents and Siblings on Nov 21st, 2009
My father stopped drinking when I was 13. I’ve never felt that he owed me an apology. Except maybe for keeping his secret. As a child, we all just want to fit in. I’d go to school and NOT hear stories of other children’s fathers missing dinner and arriving home well past midnight drunk and [...]
Posted in Children on Sep 3rd, 2009
My wife and I are both children of alcoholics. “They” claim that because children of alcoholics see the havoc that is wrecked in their parents’ lives, that the disease skips a generation. Meaning that though my wife and I may not become alcoholics, our children’s odds are not good. That scares the hell out me. [...]
Posted in Children, Guilt and Shame, Marriage and Divorce, Spouses on Aug 1st, 2009
I am the mother of three children under the age of five. My husband and I both work. My time is spent either alone with my children, with my husband and children, or at work. The only alone time I get is when everyone is asleep before me. I cherish this time, but find I [...]
Posted in Children, Parents and Siblings, Spouses on Jul 23rd, 2009
When I was about seven, I found out what adoption meant. My cousin was adopted as an infant. I was jealous. She’d been taken by a family who wanted her. I decided for a short while that I had been adopted. It was a fantasy I hung onto – an explanation of sorts, the kind [...]